Defining Happiness…

According to the web Happiness means:

state of well-being characterized by emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy ( okay end of story.. thays it… “joy”… hehehehehehehe….)

emotions experienced when in a state of well-being

according to different ethical views, happiness might be one goal in life, the only possible goal, or a fortunate by-product of the pursuit of other goals. Happiness might concern one’s aggregate of pleasure or require a complex balance involving virtue, pleasure, achievement and good fortune.

A reference point; a relative state of mind to which we compare other emotions. Being happy is one of our ultimate goals.

Why is it that so many people are looking for it?  Nice question….

If you have watched will smith’s “pursuit to happyness” (spelled with a “y” where chris gardner always corrects the owner of the building) there you will find a lot deeper meaning of happiness. Striving hard, working hard, kahit wlang sweldo, kahit matulog sa MRT,  basta ma achive yung goal na maging broker…. and that certain point of his life… when the boss shook his hands and asking if he wants to work with the company tomorrow….walking out of the room, going out in the public, with all those people walking around… that is happiness….

But wait a minute kapeng mainit… how do i define happiness or what is it?… uhhmmmm.. let me see….

one is doing something good… when someone needs something and you are able to give that need, well i can be happy… when you see kids starring at a lollipop or candy then they are not asking for it then all of a sudden infront of them you will hand does candies… and the smile in your face… well i guess.. that is some form of being happy… things that you would not ask for in return….

another is setting a goal, yung tipong dadaan ka sa dami ng pag hihirap… then after all those hardships you will attain something… that is happiness…

another is waking up in the morning, looking at the mirror then looking at the picture of a couple wearing pink and red, all smiles are there.. or when you wake up in the morning and you know that there is someone out there patiently waiting…or receiving a text message saying.. “good morning” or just simply waking up in the morning knowing that there is someone out there also waking up and also thinking of you…..

Satisfying your tastebuds… when you are craving for something then you dont have money to buy for it then, you would look every pocket of your bag, your pants, your books, your wallet if theres a “ninoy” hiding… or you want to see someone… but you dont have a pamasahe to go to makati, then when you check your alkansya then whoaaaa! may 500….(laban na ito….), then you would be eating pizza

when you are standing for almost an hour at the block along the crossroads waiting for a cab, its raining, both of you are pissed to each other, then all of a sudden a cab comes along, then you were able to get a ride to roxas blvd, then both of you are running to catch the Jethro bus… then your ride is so comfortable…

When you are eating french fries and sundae…

When you finished your work, regardless of your salary or how many times your boss crucified you because they were not able to receive their mails…. that too is happiness…

When you buy a new cheap but good looking shirt and someone says, you look good on that shirt…

When you cook spagetti, then they will criticize your cooking rather than saying na masarap sya which is you know hindi naman, the usual pilipino ugali…(sasabihing masarap hindi naman pala… hehehehehe)… that too is happiness…

When my grandfather built me a Top (turumpo in tagalog) na kahit di ako marunong ay nilalaro ko… or when he climbed a coconut tree, then prepared a buco salad na pulang asukal lang ang sahog….. or kakain kami every sunday sa papag, sa ilalalim ng punong mangga every sundays… or kakain kami ng mais na tanim ng lolo ko…

Seeing a sunrise at the beach…. having coffee in a porch in a hut, smoking, in front of the sea….

watching your most awaited movie in the movie house….

shooting a 3 point basket in a crucial game…

able to catch “jasper jean”

able to sleep 8 hours….

im kinda.. sleepy na… but there are lots of things that makes someone happy… hindi lang pera.. or fame… those things… hinding hindi ko mabibili ng pera yun….

Sometimes, happiness is just having “contentment” in life… i remembered, few years ago… i have a 5110 phone… at that time nung wala pa ako phone, parang nasasabi ko sa sarili ko…. magkaroon lang ng cellphone.. 5110, masaya na ako.. pero now… as the technology grows each passing day…  masasabi ko pa ba na masaya ako sa 5110… One of my friends… sabi nya, pag nagka kotse na sya kahit anong kotse, masaya na sya… pero ngayon.. binebenta nya yung old car nya.. kasi sawa na sya….  di na sya masaya… pero imagine mo, yung makakabili nun, is magiging masaya dahil, magkakakotse na sya…

pero hindi naman masama na mag upgrade ka, or magpalit ka, as long as capable ka and wala kang natatapakang tao… siguro that is one essense of life….

pero sa haba haba naman nitong sinusulat ko, i know… hindi rin magiging masaya ang makakabasa nito dahil, they have a different point of view….

pero at this point, happy ako, kasi i have done something, expressed something…. simple lang.. happy ako pagnagsusulat kahit sa iba walang kwenta to.. hehehehehehe….  

Small, Smart and Stylish

My new blackberry phone…. BB pearl… from the looks of it, it is really a pearl worth to dive for.. It is one of the world’s smallest smartphone and packs all the power of blackberry. It comes with a digital camera, multimedia capabilities, email, sms, mms, apps like yahoo messenger and expandable memory.

Small, smart and stylish….

Path to PHP…

just receive a phonecall yesterday from bluepoint inviting me to take advantage of the early bird promo for their extreme PHP training… the cost 25k (mahalia!)… this has kept bugging me for the past months now, when i first inquired for that training… I remember when jhun hubac used to tell me… “napaka simple.. yun lang.. marami ka pang kakaining bigas” at that time he was making php scripts for the internet provider. I tried but it was so hard for me… then came my new work at PLPI, there meron din ako project dun, database din sya.. as in zero knowledge sa ASP nor PHP.. and kung paano mag connect yung mga hina!#$*% na yun sa database… Buti na lang at ever patient tong bespren ko na si kulot… panay ang paturo ko sa kanya kahit alam ko naiinis na yun… cge pa rin sya.. “yan.. ganito gawin mo.. eto basahin mo… download mo to…”(salamat part!)

Pero, never say die nga… nag try ako isang beses.. isang simple “hello world” na script abat akalain mo, nakaka enjow.. seeing the hello world flash on the computer screen… at iyon na nga… ngayon.. may timekeeper na ako… meron pang help ticket plus pa yung mga sandamakmak na testing portal sa XCI…

now i can say to myself.. medyo marami rami na ring bigas  at di lang siguro marami, kaban kaban pa… ang nalamon ko kaya medyo nakaka gawa na ako.. pero yung goal kasi… its something worth the hardships id been through… i hope i can make a way on this.. and kung hindi na namn… better luck next time…

 sabi nga ni Mr. Limos dati… “Life or your career does not end after you graduate.. it is a continous study, setting your goals and achieving them… thats life….”

 !!!!!! sarap siguro magkaroon ang name ng  tailing….. Certified PHP developer

Money Management…

Looking back 2-3 years ago, one questing that lingers on my mind, where does all my savings go? I had a major operation, that is the answer…. I’ve realized that i need to go back again to the saying “live within your means” in order to achieve goals that i have already set few years ago.. im planning to change my lifestyle, the way i spend and do some saving… Below are some points that i need to avoidin order not to make the same mistakes again…… and i think everyone should do to…

Avoiding Money management mistakes… (http://www.personalmoneymgmt.com/)

1. No spending plan. – This is correct, the usual  “where does my money go?” question… di ko nga alam eh, all i know is i spend for bills(which is reasonable naman), food (Matakaw kasi ako eh), transportation(this is the basics), clothes(medyo maarte kasi ako eh, i’d go for designer clothes kasi, mukhang jologs naman…). I need to differentiate dapat the “needs” and “wants”.  A few months ago i bought a new pair of leather shoes, eh kasi naman sumasakit na ang aking sakong ng mahabang lakad…di ko alam kung rayuma na to or pagod lang talaga anyways, it was a nice pair of shoes, bought it around 1k seems nice but after a few months sira na sya… nakakainis no, id spent that amount of money for 2 months.. so sad.. sana bumuli na lang ako ng medyo mahal pero nagamit ko naman ng mas mahabang panahon… Medyo impulsive din kasi ako and i did not made a plan on buying that stuff….

2. No Cash Reserve. For a single or married man(and also for women na rin…), onse should have nga the so called reserve cash… for emergencies, according to most financial experts, it should be 50% of the annual income… This means one should know how to save and spend… (kung 50% so dapat may cash reserve ako na…… :p, mahirap ata yun…)

3. To much use of credit – I have already learned my lessons….!!!!!

4.  Non constructive use of “windfalls” – examples are tax refund, bonus, raise or maybe inherittance. Anything that came out of nowhere, easy money… one way is to send it directly to your savings account and keep it for later use or for large purchases…

5.  No provisions for large expenses.  – these are for all year round expenses, just divide them by 12. (Sofar wala pa naman ako pinagkakagastusan ng ganito but for a family man, tuition fees or house taxes should be considered.)

6. Underestimating cost of ownership. – basically for car owners… one should also consider maintenance…. still not applicable for me…

7.  Spending Leaks – this goes for me… impulse buying… ! This is a big problem for me, lahat ng makita at gusto…ayun.. gastos…! I should learn to control this one…. avoid groceries, avoid killing time at department stores, and try to use allowance.

8.  Careless Shopping habits – Another problem with me…. wants is greater than needs… sometimes di ko naman kailangan, basta makita.. ayun gasta ng gasta… kaya later on, ala na pera….

9. Not saving small amounts – this is something i need to do.. my friends resty, rollie and gerald has a group at their office… they save 300 pesos weekly and after every 3 months, they would be having avacation to different places, so far for the whole year they have visited 3 resorts without the biglaang labas ng pera… and their target by december is singapore…. there are 4 weeks in a month, they save P1,200 pesos a week; they are 10 in the group, for a month they gather P12,000 and for 3 months P36,000… a coolw way isn’t it…. they have not felt that 300 pesos per week but if you imagine you will set up for a grand vacation… you will immediately pull out P5,000 for just 2 or 3 nights… their secret.. Discipline….!

10. Can’t wait attitude – Another problem for me… just follow these step… “save now, buy later”…

Definitely, these ideas are good points but if a person is not determined to do these things.. still it won’t work… one must have discipline.. and i say Discipline… sana i can establish that kind of discipline para in the future, me myself and my family to be..(sana…) would be happy… (technically speaking… coz its not just money that makes you happy…).. ciao!

Guidelines to a better living…

This morning felt stressed out, soooooo sleepy, tired of making followups, analyzing logic for my programs, absorbing knowledge from great minds…. had a small chat with my boss Sir denz,  most of the conversations are work related, but in the end, something to ponder for the whole lot meaning of living in this life… With all these problems all he said is just keep your cool and gave me his new motto in life….

1. Free your heart from hatred  – hate is one of the enemy in this life, with hate you can do no good… Envy and Hate will poison our mind until it consumes us. So free your mind from hatred….

Romans 12:8-10 (New International Version)

if it is encouraging, let him encourage; if it is contributing to the needs of others, let him give generously; if it is leadership, let him govern diligently; if it is showing mercy, let him do it cheerfully. Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves

 2. Free your mind from worries. – like the lyrics of the song.. “Dont worry, be happy….”

Jeremiah 17:7-9 (New International Version)

But blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD, whose confidence is in him. He will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream.  It does not fear when heat comes;  its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit

3. Live simply. – My friend Resty, always tells me.. Live within your means… Live a simple life…

Living simply means we consume a minimum of resources, distinguish our true ‘needs’ from ‘wants’. It is amazing how few things we truly need. We keep our home and time schedules uncluttered by things that are not important to us. It is a great relief to be simplified, so we can focus our energy where it matters most.

Living simply is also frugal, and helps us to be debt free. – http://www.43things.com/person/Juniper2

4. Give more

Proverbs 11:23-25 (New International Version)

The desire of the righteous ends only in good, but the hope of the wicked only in wrath. One man gives freely, yet gains even more; another withholds unduly, but comes to poverty.  generous man will prosper; he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed.

 5. Expect Less – its hard, after putting efforts, sweat n time . .. its hard not to. but there it is, if we expect, we are bound to be dissapointed, the things is, we could never be satisfied when we expect. . .not expect too much, but by mere expecting. it also puts pressure on the people we expect to deliver our expectations, usually the ones we really love n care.

All of these things may apply to certain people, other may not agree to all these things, but sometime respecting opinion may  generate peace and love. It is really hard to live a life here in this cruel world….

 To Sir Rando… Rest in Peace…

Old Friends…

was looking for some files on my pc when i browsed some old pics, memories and moments with my former officemates… I think this was year 2003 or 2004 when i got a job at Prudentialife Plans Inc. (let me look at my resume… nakalimutan ko na eh) , i already forgot when was that but anyways, naalala ko pa rin yung mga buddies and buddettes on my department… Then a few weeks later, was waiting for a cab with my girlfriend, i met my other officemate pero nakalimutan ko name nya, ( sori po mam elena… ngayon ko lang naalala…hehehehe…)… and i realized in this journey of life you will meet people that sometimes you may want to go back and spend some time with them… my stay with those people helped me for what i am now… (syempre ganun pa rin…..) and somehow, i can say to my self they are great people, not just the term “people” or “human beings” found in the dictionary but a part of your life.. I am very lucky that i have met these people…. My Friends… Thanks Guys….

I still have hairs……. Red E-Marketing…

sleeping on duty… sa rancho guwapo…. (chairman, panelo, ryandude..)

they are wasted.. and so am i( san nga ba ako? ah, nambobola ng bading..  pero si panelo lang yun…)

yes we are drunk….. (ako lang ata eh….)

habang nalalim ang gabi…..

Say Chiz sa Senado….knockout sa kongresso…

As of 10am manila time, Chiz Escudero leads the senatorial race followed by Loren Legarda and Panfillo Lacson, so far 8 Oppositions, 2 Team Unity and 2 Independent are on the track based from my alma mater’s quick count AMA. But one thing that caught my attention, as i was looking at the results at inquirer.net theres an article about the race of the “pambansang kamao” Pacquiao…

Custodio leads 50% on the partial unofficial tally… poor pacman, i hope this fight does not lead to depression… Most of his fights are people screaming, “manny!, manny! manny!” pero ngayon “Dali! Dali! Dali” I guess for this one is a unanimous decision for Darlene. Filipinos are now learning nowadays, hindi na basta basta nagpapdala sa kasikatan or sa fame na nakukuha ng tao.. Sa dami na ng mga pagkakamali ng mga tao noon, sana magtuloy tuloy na, na hindi na magpapaka “TANGA”.  Eh, ano nga kaya ang pumasok sa utak ni pacman para kumandidato? Hindi lang sa kasikatan or pagiging pulitiko pwede maglingkod sa tao… hindi ba?  I know pacman can serve and help people pero siguro not in this ring…. And for Darlene, sana she would stand up for what is right, people believed in her capacity so she must return that trust in order to serve the people, madali magsabi tumulong sa tao… at kaya nila tumulong, pero sana rin hindi lang ang tao ay puro asa sa tulong… each should stand up, strive hard, do good deeds and think what is right for themselves, their family, their country and GOD.

So i hope, the result of this election would change the filipinos… for those who will wim, sana do their best for the country…

To my bee….

I love you more everyday,
more this day than yesterday
even more yet again with each passing day…

 

One Sleepy night on duty….

Yes, another sleepy night at work, 30 minutes before 10pm, im tired doing my help ticket program, started browsing the latest gadgets and i stumble into this very cool gadget…Gadget for the idiot! You know the rubix cube right? Its hard to solve that shitty puzzle. But now there is an option! You will never feel inferior with Will smith ever again…. If you are giving this as a gift, its an easy way to say.. “hey you are stupid!” hehehehehehehehe….

Optimus Prime is transforming and rolling out this 2007!

You a transformers fan? If so, i guess your age will be from 28- 32 right now… One of the best cartoons ive seen since i was a child, The battle between Good and Evil, the battle between autobots and the decepticons.

2007, the excitement lives on as transformers will be in movie theaters this june, a whole lot of 3d graphics that is for sure!

Below is the picture the leader of the autobots! Optimus Prime!